We were the closest family possible. Our world was turned upside down on 05/03/09 when my best friend, the person I love most next only to our children, my sister Trina was diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer. Her body gave out on her on 01/09/10 but she will ALWAYS be a part of our daily life and will continue to be in my posts. I started my blog to chronicle our daughter's international adoption from Guatemala and have continued to use it as a journal.

What you will find is my family trying to adapt to our new lives that were handed to us.



Thursday, January 14, 2010

How?

How do I write a eulogy for my sister?

11 comments:

Natalie said...

Oh gosh, that's a hard one.

I think you write it as if you are talking to Trina. Tell her things that you are thinking about, tell her things that you miss, tell her what she meant to you and how it felt to grow up with her, to watch eachother get married, become mom's, tell her how you plan to be there for Asa and Josh just as she would have wanted. That her memory will never fade and she will live on through all of you. That she was one of the most special people to ever grace this earth, and that although we all think she was taken too soon, God had a bigger plan for her, and her work here, must have been done. She must be very busy up there watching over all of you! :)

Speak from your heart. It doesn't matter if what you write doesn't make sense to some, or if it's a big jumble. All that matters is that what you speak, is what you are feeling at that time.

You are so strong to even think of giving a eulogy, yet, it also makes so much sense. I'm sure you'll do great, and that many people will soon grasp the relationship you had with your Sissy, and just how amazing she really was. Good luck and stay strong :)

Hope you're doing as best as you can.

auntrene said...

I read what Natalie said in her comment.. She says it all..
Praying for you and your family..

Nicole R. said...

cameo.... god bless you and your family during this time. just speak from your heart and remember all the times and years spent with your sister - talk about growing up, talk about now, talk about anything you want sweetie. just let it flow and it will come from your heart and you will do a great job. talk about josh and asa and them as a family; trina as a beautiful person, daughter, sister, aunt, mother, wife! thinking about you this week.

Anonymous said...

I can't imagaine...but I guess... knowing in your heart that she'd do the same for you, if she had too...
I'm so sorry for this pain.

Patti B.

Suzanne said...

Cameo, you've written such nice posts about your sister on your blog. Can you go through some of those for ideas?

Maria and Family said...

I am so sorry. I know you will speak from the heart and do great, I wish you didnt have to even think about it though...hugs.

Andrea said...

Love you. It's impossible to put how you feel about Sissy into words, I am sure. But when you let your heart open up, the words will be there. Because what you feel for Sissy comes straight from the heart. Love you!!!

Melissa, Multi-Tasking Mama said...

Praying for strength!

Jaimee said...

From your heart, girl. You will not go wrong. I've have been amazed at the things you write in your blog, I would expect nothing less of your ability to write her eulogy. Wishing you all the strength in the world as you write this. Hugs.

wy-not said...

May God guide your hand as you write, Cameo. You have your opening line right there in your blog. How do you write a eulogy for a beloved sister who is as much a part of you as your own heartbeat? How do you deliver such a eulogy? As one commenter said, you do it as Trina would have done it for you. I am so sorry about your family's loss, and the raw, terrible heartache you are all enduring. I wrap you all in cyber hugs from my heart. ((((((())))))

Grama said...

Since I heard your eulogy I can say you did an excellent job. You were strong and said such true and wonderful things.
Love all of you so much.