We were the closest family possible. Our world was turned upside down on 05/03/09 when my best friend, the person I love most next only to our children, my sister Trina was diagnosed with stage IV breast cancer. Her body gave out on her on 01/09/10 but she will ALWAYS be a part of our daily life and will continue to be in my posts. I started my blog to chronicle our daughter's international adoption from Guatemala and have continued to use it as a journal.

What you will find is my family trying to adapt to our new lives that were handed to us.

Monday, May 28, 2012


I love names. I've always loved names. I used to obsess over a baby name book when I was growing up looking at various names and seeing what each one meant. Beya and I also find it wildly ironic that I didn't get to name either of my two kids.

A few weeks before we got Valentina's referral I thought I should at least write down a few girl names that I liked. We had about an 80% chance of having a boy, the agency told us to plan on a boy, everyone had said that if you didn't request a girl you would have a boy. We were going to have a boy. His name was going to be Jameson but I thought I better have a backup plan. Little did I know that not only did we have a girl but that she was already named.

Yesterday I was going through some paperwork and found that piece of paper that I had written down my preferred list of girl names. I told Norm that I had found "my list". Valentina heard me and came running in from the family room. She asked me what it was and I explained it to her. She wanted to hear the names. As I read them to her she had an opinion for each and every name. I was writing down what she said because it was making me laugh. What follows below is me saying the name and her response to it.

Ana - I like it.

Ava - No.

Aviana - That's just CRAZY! That's Aviana's name!

Carolina - Who's Carolina?
(sidenote: this is Valentina's birthmom's first name and was going to be Valentina's first name. We have things engraved with Carolina Valentina and her adoption announcement says Carolina Valentina. We were going to call her Carolina. Oh how things change!)

Chloe - NO!

Christina - No-un!

Claire - yeah....

Ella - Yeah.

Emily - No.

Emma - No.

Erin - No! That's sorta like Karen!

Esme - YEAH! That's a princess! Princess Esme!

Faith - No. Then I'll be Faith. Like fake. And like disgusting.

Gemma - Yeah! I like Gemma!

Harley - No. I'll be a cherry.

Katherine - Then I'll be Kat. Then it would be Cat, like a kitty cat! No!

KiKi - No.

Mia - No.

Morena - Yeah, I like that.

Neiva - That's cold!
(sidenote: that means snow in Spanish and she obviously knows that.)

Nina - That would be like Nina and Star on the Good Night Show!

Olivia - That's a PIG!

Payton - That's a BOY name. Then I'll be PAINT! No!

Ramona - Row. Then I'll be a road, like on a street!

Regan - I'd be a wagon!

Rian - That's a BOY name! Why would you give me a BOY name? Besides, that's Daddy's brothers name!

Sarah - That's CRAZY! That's like SARAH!
(sidenote: she has a cousin named Sarah)

Sofia - No.

Zoe - No.

Courtney - Then I'll be CORN!

The whole time Valentina was giving me her opinion she would wave her arms and throw the biggest theatrics.

After we went through all the names Valentina said "Wow, that was WEIRD! But I'm Valentina!"

Yes she is!